Just because you lost me as a friend doesn’t mean you gained an enemy

I am not one of those people who has 2,000 facebook friends. When I see someone with that many, I just shake my head. Are there really 2,000 people you want seeing your gnocchi dish or kid’s finger paint? Maybe. I suppose some people want everyone to see the most mundane parts if their lives. It could also be that they do not even process it that way. They just accumulate friends. And, that is that.

Regardless, I don’t accumulate Facebook friends. But that is not what this is about. It’s almost the opposite.

While I do not accumulate Facebook friends, there have been times when I have “lost” friends. They just either disappeared, grew distant or we intentionally stopped the friendship. The latter is not what I tend to do. People just drift apart at times.

What struck me the other day is how some people will take the lack of friendship to mean now being enemies. And, that is not the case at all. At least, not for me. Things need not be an either or. Not one extteme versus the other. A friendship can end amicably and one moves on wishing them well. You just dont want them in your life. And, there’s nothing wrong with that.

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  1. That’s a beautiful piece of writing and perhaps just what I needed to hear right now.. 🙂 it’s common for people nowadays to drift apart and then view the other as an alien entity.. I guess the beauty of friendship lies in living in the moment and making the most of the time we spend together.. Memories are all we have, eventually 😊❤️

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  2. SMiLes.. Looking
    At The Parking Lot
    A Thought FaceBook
    Friends Don’t Usually
    Talk to
    Other More
    Than Cars
    But Who
    Really Talks
    These Days
    Any Ways
    AS Humanity
    An interesting
    Change in 🧭 DirectionS


  3. Well said! I totally agree. Exclusion does not mean opposition. Each individual has only one lifetime and it is constrained by time. I really can’t afford and have no inclination anyway to include beyond a handful into my life. Just a thought. Thank you for the platform. I really enjoy your thoughts sharing!

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  4. I wish well, in their alternate universe, to all the people I have had to relegate to the not friend category. Even if they hate ME.

    I just don’t want to live that way. And I see very little chance of a path back for most of them.

    But I fear for their elderly, their children, their unmasked friends and strangers, more than I fear for those who chose their path when they chose their leader. Because they’re getting dragged along.

    On FB I routinely turn down requests from acquaintances – I barely have enough energy to follow those I love.


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