There’s a Dostoevsky-adjacent line that has followed me from job to job, like a slightly unhinged little companion: “they insulted me in seventy lines and only the spelling mistakes bothered me.” It shouldn’t resonate as much as it does. And yet. Because here’s the thing about being a […]
Some people will never ask you for your side of the story. Not because they forgot. Not because they’re too busy. But because the version they already heard? It fits. It’s convenient. It confirms whatever quiet narrative they’ve been building about you in their head. Why complicate a […]
There was a time when I believed my umbrella choices said something noble about me. I was a small umbrella person. The kind who tucks neatly into a bag, emerges politely, and takes up as little space in the world as possible. Compact. Considerate. Mildly damp, but morally […]
There’s a particular kind of person who walks into a room and immediately assumes it’s a stage. Not a room. Not a shared space. A stage. They talk the loudest, interrupt the fastest, and laugh the hardest, usually at their own comments. There’s a kind of performance happening. […]
Somewhere between scanning QR codes and letting algorithms pick our personalities, something else quietly shifted. Our relationships started to feel lighter. Faster. More replaceable. Enter the overlap I can’t stop thinking about the “5-Year Stranger Theory” (which I write about yesterday) meets the digital leash. Because yes, relationships […]
There’s a theory floating around the internet lately that’s called the “5-Year Stranger Theory” which basically suggests that a large portion of the people in your life right now won’t be in it five years from now. I wrote about this ladt week. And it’s still on my […]
We love choices. We say we want options. More flavors, more shows, more ways to customize our coffee and our lives until everything feels uniquely ours. And yet something feels off. Because the choices don’t feel as expansive as they used to. They feel curated. Narrowed. Pre-decided in […]
Yesterday, I complained (eloquently, I think) about needing an app to breathe in public. But let’s go deeper because it’s not just that we’re tethered to our phones. It’s that the phone is quietly making decisions for us. What we buy. What we watch. What we read. Even […]
There was a time—not ancient history, just pre-everything-needs-a-passwordwhen you could simply exist in public without downloading something first. I remember writing about this years ago after watching a Sesame Street skit that cheerfully predicted a world of apps for everything. It felt cute. Playful. Slightly absurd. Well. Joke’s […]
We’ve been sold a very polished lie. That life is something you prepare for. Save now. Work harder. Wait your turn. Delay gratification like it’s a moral virtue and not a slow leak of joy. As if pleasure is a reward you earn later, after you’ve checked every […]
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