I often, in the past, have digressed plenty while writing my short bits of daily insights. I do want to noted that autocorrect just tried to change the intended word of “insights” to insults. It’s somewhat funny. I would truly like to do a daily insults comment. It could just be at an extremely abstract level or I could be very specific. However, because it’s more fun to leave people guessing, I’d be am abstract insult column. Maybe, I already am. But, I have now indulged in my digression tendency. I caved in. It’s ok. What I have to say next is rather simple.
Let’s note the following. When you try to be something for everyone, you inevitably miss being there for yourself. Plain as can be. You help person X, Y, Z. You worry about person A, B, C. You tend to person L,M,N. You create space for person F,G, H. But where are you? You’re missing from the equation. You can’t be something for everyone, because you get lost in the shuffle and alphabet soup.
I’m not saying to forget empathy, sympathy, and helpfulness. Never. However, you must carve a space out to help yourself. Others will also help you, as you have helped them. But you need to intentionally create space for you to nourish and grow yourself. You’ll be an even better helper by nurturing yourself.
Self-care is ethical.