What makes a good neighbor?
Ah, the elusive concept of the “good neighbor.” In a world increasingly dominated by social media and the ever-present cacophony of noise, it sometimes feels like good neighbors have become the stuff of legends, like unicorns or pots of gold at the end of rainbows. But fear not, dear readers, for in the tapestry of life, there are still a few shining stars amidst the cacophony. Wink. Wink for my diligent readers.
Now, I’ve had my fair share of encounters with less-than-ideal neighbors, and let’s just say they make for entertaining stories. There was the neighbor in Berkeley, who lived beneath me, and possessed the remarkable ability to make bathroom activities sound like a herd of elephants. Yet, this same neighbor had an uncanny knack for complaining if I so much as tiptoed across my own room. The audacity!
Then there were the musicians in Los Angeles, who seemed to mistake our shared walls for a concert stage. Sleep was a luxury that often felt out of reach, lost amidst the discordant notes of their late-night jam sessions. Oh, the joys of city living! They were actually not bad, but I had a stressful job that required me to get some sleep.
But let’s not forget the neighbor in New York, who unwittingly (perhaos purposefully) intercepted my Grubhub food order and devoured it with gusto. It was a culinary caper that could rival any sitcom – especially a Seinfeld plot. Not to mention their tendency to engage in street-side arguments, adding to the urban symphony of sirens and car horns. They are quite lucky I haven’t called the cops on them yet.
And then, there was the neighbor in Washington, D.C., whose saxophone skills could rival the murderer in “Only Murders in the Building.” While I appreciate a musical endeavor as much as the next person, there’s a time and place for a saxophone solo, and 3 AM on a Tuesday is not it. Maybe Friday night.
Now, with this colorful cast of neighbors, one might wonder, where do the good neighbors hide in this cacophony of daily life? The answer lies in the pockets of humanity that still shine brightly, even amidst the noise.
One such neighbor, a real-life hero in my book, came to the rescue when my son was in distress. I was miles away, racing to get to him, and she didn’t hesitate to step in, even without a winter jacket on the midfke of a snowstorm. Her selflessness and kindness remain etched in my heart like a precious gem. In a world where people often connect through screens and social media, her actions were a reminder that genuine human connection and compassion still exist.
So, what makes a good neighbor in this ever-evolving world? It’s not about how quiet they keep their bathroom activities or their prowess with a musical instrument. A good neighbor embodies the essence of community, kindness, and empathy. They are the unsung heroes who step in when needed, the ones who lend a helping hand, and the ones who create a sense of belonging amidst the cacophony of modern life.
In a world where it’s easy to become ensnared in the web of social media and the constant noise of everyday existence, these good neighbors are like beacons of hope, reminding us that authentic connections and acts of kindness can still thrive.
So, to those rare gems of good neighbors, those who stand out amidst the cacophony, I salute you. You may not always make the headlines or become viral sensations, but you’re the real superheroes of our communities, and your impact is immeasurable.
As for the rest, the quirky neighbors who add a touch of chaos to my life well, they too have their place in the grand mosaic of existence. After all, in this cacophonous world, it’s often the unexpected that adds the most color to the canvas of life.





Don’t forget the online neighbors – those you encounter in comment streams on someone’s blog – and who, over time, become friends. I wouldn’t ever have met them, much less considered them good neighbors, without my online life.
Disabled people have a hard time in the ‘real world’ – online, many of us can be our authentic selves.
I can help someone online when there is no way (and I live in a retirement community of lovely people, most in a single building, many of whom I’ve met and had dinner with) I can do something physical and helpful, like being there when someone moves in.
A lot of it is listening and being supportive – that I can do, without getting exhausted, only online. My real life is a warren of make-do, naps, and dealing with pain and brainfog. Nice to still be useful.
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Yes! Absolutely. Online neighbors have become quite an integral part of our lives.
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I have the best neighbors, EVER. For real! And in return I made our lemon tree available to whomever is in need. 😄
The reason why my life doesn’t suck is because of my neighbors, I’m not exaggerating. I don’t know what I would do without them!
So yes, they do exist! We live in a SoCal suburb. ❤️
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I’m so happy to hear of your great neighbors! You are all so lucky to have found each other
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Hehe Living in Several ‘Dirt Cheap Apartments’ Before Our
Purchase of Our Relatively Modest Heated Home All 1333
Square Feet on October 23rd 1993 With Close to A Couple
of Thousand Feet Under
Indoor Outdoor
Porches
And Garage
And Shed And
The Such As That
Creating Our Own Garden
of Eden to Be Good Feeding Neighbors
to the Winged and Little Furry Creatures
Pesticide Free For All the Little Crawling Bugs
And Aerating
Worms too
Even Allowing
A Healthy Population
of Ants as Long As They
Stay Far Enough Away From Bare feet hehe
Oh Golly When the Neighborhood Was All
Fresh With Married Couples Working Raising
A Couple of Kids Then Everyone Way too Busy
to Connect Closely With Neighbors It Seems Rarely
Any Front Porches Used Perhaps Behind Privacy
Fences Doing Private Stuff Back There of Course
Yet Now We Are Mostly All Retired Difficult Yet Warm
And Easy to Make it Around the Block Interacting With
Every Soul Bringing Once Empty Windows and Doors of Homes
Soul Less to
Warm
Life Now
Where Life
Moves Slow Enough
To Truly Deeply Connect
Even Warmer And Cooler Than the Weather For
Real Dear Miriam Hehe Oh Dear Lord All the Stories
i Could Tell About the Neighbors in Those Cheap Apartments
Next to me in my Earlier Life Indeed Didn’t Know ’em Yet
They Surely
Kept Us
Entertained
Through the Walls
With Their Extracurricular Activities Hehe
True Not Suitable For Family Oriented Blogs With SMiles
Anyway Hooray Fully Human Golden Age ReTiReD i Get to Put
People First
Now and
Become Brother
Fred Roger’s Neighborhood
Every Where i Go Both Off and
Online Warm And Totally Free True
It Takes Years and Years of Practice
To Finally Rise Up and Be a Good Neighbor
In this
Modern
World
of Go Go Go
Distractions
Distractions
Distractions
Other than that
See You Later ‘like
A Good Neighbor’ i
Am as Reliable As ‘State Farm’ HAha..:)
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I see what you did here…..cacophony indeed !!!!
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