Some people have no shame

I know that there are times in which I have stared at someone in utter disbelief. I have been stunned into silence, at times, when people demonstrably have no shame. I was thinking about that today as I watched my dog dig right into the garbage bag in front of me. I clapped my hands and asked him if he had no shame. He stared at me, walked away a little guilty-seeming, and then wagged his tail at me. No. No, shame there.

I sat back on my couch and had a few flashbacks. I have certainly sat through many instances where people outright lied to my face with no shame in that they knew that I was aware they were lying. I have sat through meetings where people fell far short of expectations and hust shrugged. There was no shame in failing. Let me reframe this last bit. I am one of those who believes it’s ok to fail and to let others fail. We learn from fairlures. Or rather, we can learn from failures if we allow ourselves. However, some people don’t care to learn and are seemingly ok with falling short. It’s as if they are daring you to shame them on their behalf.

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  1. SMiLes Dear Miriam my Sister Has Asked me How i Manage
    to Write 100,000 Words A Month On Average Every Month
    Now for 110 Months As Yes Today 10.18.2022 is the Anniversary

    Date of Completing 11 MiLLioN Words of my EPiC Longest
    Long Form Poem “SonG oF mY SoUL” Of Course i’m Practically

    Writing it to me on WordPress At Least As Even my iPhone XS

    Crashes With Every Attempt Now to Open Up Only One Bi-Monthly

    MacroVerse of Around 60,000 Words Which i Shall Proof Read Next
    For the One i Just Finished Putting Together Yesterday as Of Course

    MicroSoft Word Is of No Use As i Don’t Follow the Queen’s English

    of Capitalization
    as Generally Speaking
    i Respect most All Words
    With Capitalization ThiS Way

    All Integral to the Whole Indeed

    Anyway on a Website Called the “Wrong
    Planet” i Present a Watered Down Mostly
    Text Version i Name “Depth of the Story” Yes

    (Close to a Number One Hit with the Google Search Engine)

    God Yes That Any Smart Phone Will Open Only Sparingly
    Using Multi-Media As Far As the 130,000 Plus Photos
    i Take Yes for the Rest of It Hehe Yet True All the Words
    Are Accompanied by Theme Songs of Course And it Appears

    Even though Some of the Folks There Suggest The Way i Write
    Makes No Sense At All Apparently More Are Reading Than Writing

    Hehe as the 2.06 MiLLioN Words or So That i’ve Written in the Last
    26 Months in 56 Pages so far in That Solo Thread have Accumulated
    127 Thousand Views just From the Registered Members There So True

    (The 26th Month Anniversary Date is on 10.19.2022 As Well As the 111th
    Month Anniversary Date of Escaping Hell into Heaven on 7.19.2013 Hooray!)

    Not too Surprising ‘Silent Autistic’ Folks Who Are more Right Hemisphere
    Interpreters are Reading more than Writing in Much Greater Numbers Hehe

    Anyway my Sister Who Has Two Master’s Degrees, One in “Business Management” And One In “Natural Health” Said She Was Amazed

    At How Few Typos i Make Writing that Much And i Say Now

    It’s Like the Hawk in the Sky Who Rarely Falls and the

    Monkey in the Tree Who Rarely Falls Practice Practice

    Practice And More Practice and Ya Rarely Fail in What

    Ya are Doing Unless You Are Driving A Frigging

    Car And Using A ‘Smart Phone’ in A Dumb Way

    to Get That next Hit of Dopamine on the Colored

    Screen That At that Moment Becomes More Important

    Than if You Crash Horribly And Actually Die So Yes Welcome

    to the Human Condition In the Rest of the Animal Kingdom Failure

    is really No Option in Falling As A Broken Femur Means That’s IT You

    Likely Won’t Survive As There is No Health Clinic Like All the ones You

    Are A CEO to That You Keep Runnign in Non-Profit Way Dear Miriam

    And This Brings me to Another Point And That is the Phrase “We learn from fairlures” Whether of Not That is a Typo Or Not i See it As Genius Putting
    Together Fair

    With Failure Indeed

    We Humans Can Afford to

    Fail As We Are A Social Animal

    With Technologies That Allow Us

    To Put Each Other Back Together Again

    Even if We Break our Femurs in Falls

    And True if that Doesn’t Work We

    Have Wheel Chairs With

    Powered Wheels And Even

    Legal Rights to Mainstream
    Folks With Disabilities As Well

    It Takes A Whole Lot of Folks Conscientious
    Enough to Truly Keep These Benefits of Living
    in Human Societies Alive and Well so What If

    We Develop Into A ‘Reefer Nation’ Where There is

    So Much Instant Gratification Like Using Smart Phones
    While Driving 2 or 3 Ton Trucks Perhaps Downloading
    Unlimited ‘Pretty Birds’ Or Whatever on the Drive Home

    What About When We No Longer “Learn From Our

    Fairlures” True Generally Speaking There Are Two Kinds

    of Folks Understanding that Aphorisms Never Tale A Whole
    Truth of Life Always Changing too As There Are The kind of

    Folks Like me Who Will Find or Create A New Word And use

    it in practice Dear Miriam Until Perhaps it Becomes Included

    in the Merriam Edition of A Dictionary Hehe Hey Shakespeare
    Did it Whether

    Or Not he

    Really existed
    or Not as One

    Individual So Why
    Not me and You and
    Us And We too Celebrating

    Fairlure As We Go Yet Always

    Seeking GREATER Perfection More in all We Do

    As it Simply Lights More of Our Inner Christmas

    Tree in Colors More Year Round Always RiSinG More

    Instead of Taking Down Our Christmas Trees After only

    A Few Weeks of the Year And Letting Entropy Take us Lower Indeed…

    Perhaps i See Life A Little Differently on the Autism Spectrum As When

    You Enter the Work Force And Don’t Have the ‘Right Stuff’ To Enter Social
    Circles of Privilege As Such Whether Or Not You Have the Ability to Excel
    Beyond Others to actually Get the Job Done May Be All that Actually Keeps

    You In a Job to Eat

    So in the Example
    of Monkeys and Hawks

    You Really Can’t Afford
    to Make a Mistake Flying
    or Climbing if ya Wanna

    Continue to Eat as You

    May Not be Good ‘ole

    Boy Enough to Get A Second
    Chance Hehe Yet On the Other Hand

    You May Work Yourself to Death Doing it to
    to the Point of What the Hell is the Point Anyway

    As All the Good ‘Ole Boys And Or Girls Continue to basically
    Sit Back And Relax Without Shame No Matter How Much they F up Next…

    And Still Insisting They Believe in a ‘Protestant Work Ethic’ Hehe True

    It’s Not Really Funny Yet It’s Better Than Breaking Ya Leg As A Hawk

    Or Monkey


    Flying and
    Climbing Higher to Survive

    So What’s the Moral of this Story

    i Really Don’t need to Know i Just Keep

    Climbing and Flying Higher As i Don’t See A Better Place to Fall…

    Anyway Usually i Was the Pet Apple of Every Teacher and Boss

    Somewhere Deep Down We DO ReMeMBeR our Wing of Hawks

    And Arms of Monkeys That Climb Higher And Higher to Even Survive…

    That’s All i
    Wanna Be

    A ‘MoNKeY KinG’..;)


  2. I have been in situations where people lied to my face or lied in front of me to others when they knew that I knew better. I have decided that it isn’t about shame, but about power. They are literally imposing the lie or their version of reality because they don’t think you will stand up for yourself. In truth, the pushback is so bad if you do speak up it mostly isn’t worth it. I tend to just move on and prune people like that from my garden.

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