I know that there are times in which I have stared at someone in utter disbelief. I have been stunned into silence, at times, when people demonstrably have no shame. I was thinking about that today as I watched my dog dig right into the garbage bag in front of me. I clapped my hands and asked him if he had no shame. He stared at me, walked away a little guilty-seeming, and then wagged his tail at me. No. No, shame there.
I sat back on my couch and had a few flashbacks. I have certainly sat through many instances where people outright lied to my face with no shame in that they knew that I was aware they were lying. I have sat through meetings where people fell far short of expectations and hust shrugged. There was no shame in failing. Let me reframe this last bit. I am one of those who believes it’s ok to fail and to let others fail. We learn from fairlures. Or rather, we can learn from failures if we allow ourselves. However, some people don’t care to learn and are seemingly ok with falling short. It’s as if they are daring you to shame them on their behalf.
Categories: Culture, identity, Leadership, mental health, Psychology, society, workplace
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SMiLes Dear Miriam my Sister Has Asked me How i Manage
to Write 100,000 Words A Month On Average Every Month
Now for 110 Months As Yes Today 10.18.2022 is the Anniversary
Date of Completing 11 MiLLioN Words of my EPiC Longest
Long Form Poem “SonG oF mY SoUL” Of Course i’m Practically
Writing it to me on WordPress At Least As Even my iPhone XS
Crashes With Every Attempt Now to Open Up Only One Bi-Monthly
MacroVerse of Around 60,000 Words Which i Shall Proof Read Next
For the One i Just Finished Putting Together Yesterday as Of Course
MicroSoft Word Is of No Use As i Don’t Follow the Queen’s English
Standard
of Capitalization
as Generally Speaking
i Respect most All Words
With Capitalization ThiS Way
All Integral to the Whole Indeed
Anyway on a Website Called the “Wrong
Planet” i Present a Watered Down Mostly
Text Version i Name “Depth of the Story” Yes
(Close to a Number One Hit with the Google Search Engine)
God Yes That Any Smart Phone Will Open Only Sparingly
Using Multi-Media As Far As the 130,000 Plus Photos
i Take Yes for the Rest of It Hehe Yet True All the Words
Are Accompanied by Theme Songs of Course And it Appears
Even though Some of the Folks There Suggest The Way i Write
Makes No Sense At All Apparently More Are Reading Than Writing
Hehe as the 2.06 MiLLioN Words or So That i’ve Written in the Last
26 Months in 56 Pages so far in That Solo Thread have Accumulated
127 Thousand Views just From the Registered Members There So True
(The 26th Month Anniversary Date is on 10.19.2022 As Well As the 111th
Month Anniversary Date of Escaping Hell into Heaven on 7.19.2013 Hooray!)
Not too Surprising ‘Silent Autistic’ Folks Who Are more Right Hemisphere
Interpreters are Reading more than Writing in Much Greater Numbers Hehe
Anyway my Sister Who Has Two Master’s Degrees, One in “Business Management” And One In “Natural Health” Said She Was Amazed
At How Few Typos i Make Writing that Much And i Say Now
It’s Like the Hawk in the Sky Who Rarely Falls and the
Monkey in the Tree Who Rarely Falls Practice Practice
Practice And More Practice and Ya Rarely Fail in What
Ya are Doing Unless You Are Driving A Frigging
Car And Using A ‘Smart Phone’ in A Dumb Way
to Get That next Hit of Dopamine on the Colored
Screen That At that Moment Becomes More Important
Than if You Crash Horribly And Actually Die So Yes Welcome
to the Human Condition In the Rest of the Animal Kingdom Failure
is really No Option in Falling As A Broken Femur Means That’s IT You
Likely Won’t Survive As There is No Health Clinic Like All the ones You
Are A CEO to That You Keep Runnign in Non-Profit Way Dear Miriam
And This Brings me to Another Point And That is the Phrase “We learn from fairlures” Whether of Not That is a Typo Or Not i See it As Genius Putting
Together Fair
With Failure Indeed
We Humans Can Afford to
Fail As We Are A Social Animal
With Technologies That Allow Us
To Put Each Other Back Together Again
Even if We Break our Femurs in Falls
And True if that Doesn’t Work We
Have Wheel Chairs With
Powered Wheels And Even
Legal Rights to Mainstream
Folks With Disabilities As Well
It Takes A Whole Lot of Folks Conscientious
Enough to Truly Keep These Benefits of Living
in Human Societies Alive and Well so What If
We Develop Into A ‘Reefer Nation’ Where There is
So Much Instant Gratification Like Using Smart Phones
While Driving 2 or 3 Ton Trucks Perhaps Downloading
Unlimited ‘Pretty Birds’ Or Whatever on the Drive Home
What About When We No Longer “Learn From Our
Fairlures” True Generally Speaking There Are Two Kinds
of Folks Understanding that Aphorisms Never Tale A Whole
Truth of Life Always Changing too As There Are The kind of
Folks Like me Who Will Find or Create A New Word And use
it in practice Dear Miriam Until Perhaps it Becomes Included
in the Merriam Edition of A Dictionary Hehe Hey Shakespeare
Did it Whether
Or Not he
Really existed
or Not as One
Individual So Why
Not me and You and
Us And We too Celebrating
Fairlure As We Go Yet Always
Seeking GREATER Perfection More in all We Do
As it Simply Lights More of Our Inner Christmas
Tree in Colors More Year Round Always RiSinG More
Instead of Taking Down Our Christmas Trees After only
A Few Weeks of the Year And Letting Entropy Take us Lower Indeed…
Perhaps i See Life A Little Differently on the Autism Spectrum As When
You Enter the Work Force And Don’t Have the ‘Right Stuff’ To Enter Social
Circles of Privilege As Such Whether Or Not You Have the Ability to Excel
Beyond Others to actually Get the Job Done May Be All that Actually Keeps
You In a Job to Eat
So in the Example
of Monkeys and Hawks
You Really Can’t Afford
to Make a Mistake Flying
or Climbing if ya Wanna
Continue to Eat as You
May Not be Good ‘ole
Boy Enough to Get A Second
Chance Hehe Yet On the Other Hand
You May Work Yourself to Death Doing it to
to the Point of What the Hell is the Point Anyway
As All the Good ‘Ole Boys And Or Girls Continue to basically
Sit Back And Relax Without Shame No Matter How Much they F up Next…
And Still Insisting They Believe in a ‘Protestant Work Ethic’ Hehe True
It’s Not Really Funny Yet It’s Better Than Breaking Ya Leg As A Hawk
Or Monkey
Indeed
While
Flying and
Climbing Higher to Survive
So What’s the Moral of this Story
i Really Don’t need to Know i Just Keep
Climbing and Flying Higher As i Don’t See A Better Place to Fall…
Anyway Usually i Was the Pet Apple of Every Teacher and Boss
Somewhere Deep Down We DO ReMeMBeR our Wing of Hawks
And Arms of Monkeys That Climb Higher And Higher to Even Survive…
That’s All i
Wanna Be
A ‘MoNKeY KinG’..;)
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I have been in situations where people lied to my face or lied in front of me to others when they knew that I knew better. I have decided that it isn’t about shame, but about power. They are literally imposing the lie or their version of reality because they don’t think you will stand up for yourself. In truth, the pushback is so bad if you do speak up it mostly isn’t worth it. I tend to just move on and prune people like that from my garden.
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I like the concept (and frame) of pruning people out from the garden
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I have found politicians of every ilk to be one of the two most shameless when it comes to lying to one’s face…!
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Many certainly fit that mold!
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