I love making lists. I love to-do lists. I love putting easy wins on my to-do lists, i.e. brush hair. I can feel quite accomplished by putting together such lists. One thing, I admittedly do badly, is prioritize what is on that list. I figure I can alternate between easy items and hard ones. But prioritization? I can do that a bit better. Actually, that is true of most people.
People, surprisingly, don’t know how to prioritize. My simple answer when asked on that as a boss is to prioritize that for which others are waiting or needing you to complete that item. That sounds simple. Now let’s get out of kitchen chores and work projects.
Let’s go to the interpersonal. I don’t know how to readily advise people on how to prioritize other people in their lives. What I can say to the person who isn’t prioritized, who feels neglected or taken for granted, that at some point you have to prioritize yourself. If you are what appears to be an “option” why sweat and fuss in this situation? Don’t prioritize someone who just considers you – or treat you like- an option.
Simple rule. There are too many things that need our attention. Too many tugging at our sleeves. Too many send an outrageous number of status check inquiries. You can’t do it all. You can’t be everyone’s savior either no matter how much of a nice person you are. No matter how much of a giver you are. Sometimes you just have to say “I can try but just may not be able to get to that at the moment”. The same holds true for those you are in some kind of personal relationship, i.e. sister, uncle, partner, etc. Of course if it’s mom or the dog, those are always prioritized. That’s another simple rule.
Categories: identity, mental health, Psychology, society, women, workplace
psychologistmimi 
As someone recently stated on YouTube, in a “Dog eat Dog world” you can see why a person like yourself will deal this way. – The Sage
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“Toto, i Don’t Think We
Are in Kansas Anymore”
Lesson of Course Home
Is Where We Find Warmth,
Or Creativity, Or Excitement
Or Fear, Discontent, And Overall
Misery And Suffering True i Choose The
To Do List Of the First Three However i Experienced
The Last Three of this To Do List of Six Enough For 66 Months
of The Worst Pain Known to Humankind Type Two Trigeminal Neuralgia
As A Shut-in in my Bedroom or Facing A Privacy Fence in a Parking Lot at
Walmart As Somehow i Endured
The Pain and Numb
of A Synergy in Life
Threat of 19 Medical
Disorders for 66 Months
of Shut-in Pain And Numb
To Get My Wife to Walmart Long
Enough in Hell Sitting in That Car
in All Weathers of Cold and Heat
to Get the Necessities of Life Meanwhile
It Was surely the Life of A Hunchback of Notre-Dame
And Or the Phantom of the Opera Where Distantly Somewhere
in another Lifetime i was once a Real Part of the Play of Life then…
What the Extremes of Hell and Heaven in Life Teach me Best are Two
Wisdoms in Life And Those Are Put People First And Don’t Expect Anything
From Anyone Else When You Walk in Enough Shoes in Life to See So Many
Places
From
DarK to LiGHT
The Human Condition
Comes and Goes Away
in One Life Now as the Air Force
Psychiatrist A Reserves Major Who
Tried His Best to Help Folks With Combat
Fatigue From the Desert Wars Back in those (Circa 2008-
2013) Days Said i Was the Most Hopeless Case of A Human
Being For Any
Potential to
Come
Back to Life
Even Wanting to
Implant An Experimental
Vagal Nerve Stimulator in
my Chest to try to Bring Back
Some Kind of Human Feelings to me
Yet of Course the Insurance Wouldn’t Cover
it or the Trans-Magnetic-Cranial Stimulation that
Modern Psychiatry Also Uses to Jump Start Humans
Back to Life
Oh How Many Places
The Human Soul Will Go
Oh What the REAL DEVIL LEARNS
IN REAL HELL ON EARTH OF WHAT
IT REALLY MEANS TO HAVE THE GIFT
OF EMPATHY AND COMPASSION FOR EVERYONE
ELSE NO MATTER WHO THEY ARE AS YOU COME FROM
THE LOWEST
OF ALL
IN DANTE’S
RINGS OF HELL
THAT ONLY PROVE
THERE IS NO BOTTOM
OF THE PIT OF HUMAN HELL
THERE IS ALWAYS A STEP LOWER TO GO
Yet in a way there is balance as in heaven on earth
a real earth angel will rise forevermore now too inhaling
peace exhaling love as the devil finds real redemption in life
and suddenly all the myths and metaphors of global cross-cultural
sacred texts truly make common sense as it always just angels and
demons on earth describing what real life will bring from heaven to hell
It’s easy For Real
Devils in HeLL ON EartH
to Put People First Every Last
one of them as they understand
if they found redemption out of hell
there is room for everyone else to live again for real…
Yet of Course That’s Not Rational and of Course Life’s Not
Rational That’s A Delusion We try to Impose on DarK and LiGHT
So We Won’t Be
Afraid of the
Dark
until we meet
our other maker…
And Finally Really get
to rise and offer a lift at
least to everyone we meet in life
Thing About REALLY Being Free is it scares
enough People where You tend to never
get overwhelmed with requests for help
as True Freedom is as rare as figuring out
There is no real difference between dark and light…
Once the
Valley Becomes
the Mountain there
is no where
to fall
or rise
You arrive
and all that’s
Left to do is give,
share, care, and heal
at least for putting people first…
Yes, yes, yes, almost impossible
to do until we are really free of all
the other Insanities that Modern Cultures
Clothe us With in So Many Layers That it’s
impossible
to see
Where
We Are not now…
On the Other Hand
Being able to See this
Lends the ability not to
have any expectations
of returns from other folks…
With at Least Enough Compassion,
And Empathy to Never Give Up on others as ‘You’
are the One Who Managed not to give up on ‘me’….
It’s So Very Difficult to Put the Human Condition in Words
Some Days Perhaps You Need A Painting Like ‘Scream’
Or A Mother
And Child
of Hugs
For Real
to See the
Human Extremes…
Yet It’s So Hard to
Describe the Place
Even Demons Fear to
Tread Dante barely scratched
the surface of below above at all…
What’s Common About Hell and Heaven
is in Both Places You Have to Pinch Yourself
to Believe It’s Real…
Or Take Plenty
of Photos to
Prove You
Really Went to Heaven…
It’s Not something you do in hell…
Nope, No Selfies or Smiles in hell…
And As Hard as You Might Want to
Reach Out and Touch Someone or
Yourself And Really Touch Life there
isn’t even a Reference Point Back to
a Feeling of A Smile So Much Worse
than the assessed Worst Pain known
to Humankind the Suicide Disease
Literally assessed as worse than
crucifixion from wake to sleep
for 66 Months
A Smile is Everything
The Feeling of A Smile is Heaven
Something Perhaps only once bitten
Real Devils
Understand
No Longer
Shy Now,
SMiLes,
Putting SMiLes
First and Last… SMiLes…
Other than that Your Posts are
Always Very Inspiring it’s only been
An Honor that you allow me this free rental space in your
Blog Home in California and New York to rent free to just
flow my soul for the Last 3 Years or so and It’s true in this way
A Best
FRiEnD
may be
no Friend at all
in returns as such
so Ironically so as
there is Never any
expectations at all…
It’s True it’s a Peaceful easy feeling
And it Never Gets Messy it Never gets
Messy at
all…
And an
Option
i Choose Everyday
As An Always to Do..:)
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Word typo Correction from my last comment. *feel this way
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Also goes for your job. You’re replaceable to them.
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Hear hear!
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True.
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Never make someone a priority when all you are to them is an option is good advice, but very hard sometimes to do.
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Bonjour ou bonsoir
Bise Amitié à plus Bernard belle journée ou soirée
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