My first day at boarding school was an interesting one. It was all foreign for me. I was quite bewildered. Then my roommate came in with her twin sister. They were loud, giggling and hugging each other. One sister was attending my same boarding school and another was attending a different one. They were about to make the biggest differentiation event for themselves.
Despite such an overt act of establishing different contexts, they were extremely supportive of one another. They even performed and sang the song “Lean on Me”. One of the deepest lyrics they sang with a deep sense of commitment was
“Lean on me
When you’re not strong
And I’ll be your friend
I’ll help you carry on…”
At the time, I found the song a bit hokey. Now, I look back and greatly appreciate that sentiment and clear commitment to that concept. I came across this graffiti the other day that got me thinking about the concept of being able to lean on someone.
Yes, it was more of a construction safety project sign. However it got me thinking of how there are some people who should readily wear a sign noting they shouldn’t be leaned on. There are some people who without a doubt you can count on. Then there are those for which it is a crapshoot. Could go either way. Then there are those who can’t be counted on no matter what. It would be nice if people wore flashing shirts that made it clear. That way you don’t need to necessarily avoid them. You just lower your expectations and possibly your blood pressure as well.
People, in terms if realibility, can’t be changed. Either because they lack the capacity. Or because your perception has been so tainted. Let’s just make life easy and note that from the beginning and carry on. Relationships with low expectations can have a role in one’s life.