For the last six months or so, I have a friend that has been, sadly, very sick. I believe I have been sharing bits here and there about it. But I can’t share too much out of maintaining a sense of privacy for her and her family. None of us know exactly how her illness will end. But she has been told it is terminal. We are all bracing for the inevitable. It’s been trying times to say the least. It’s a looming sadness. A latent tearfulness that is ready to be activated. She shows a good smile, though. And research does show that a good attitude can be associated with positive health outcomes in such situations.
While, that has been occuring in the backdrop of my life, at the forefront, I have had my own set of challenges. Those as well I have shared bits of here and there; including hurricane Maria and my tough search for a house in this overpriced LA market. Honestly, I do not know what to make of 2017. I had thought 2016 sucked. This year has been tougher. Much tougher. But I am strong. That is what I told someone this morning. I am a strong woman. I am proud of my strength. But, I must admit, why do I have to continously be so strong? Well, for starters, I am a Taurus. Then, I was raised to be strong. There is nothing more to it.
It is within this personal strength context that I answer all the questions posed to me about how I am doing. A few weeks back, I was at an event and bumped into someone who asked me how I was doing and I started to make a face. But before I could even answer, they tapped me on the shoulder and told me to hang in there. This person is very well-meaning. But I get this reaction a lot from those that have an inkling as to what I am going through.
Here is the thing. No, I am not not that great right now. But I will be. I am going to get through this all and will look back on this hard time in life and be grateful that I moved on through so many literal and figurative storms. As R.E.M. noted years ago,
“Sometimes everything is wrong
Now it’s time to sing along”.
It’s ok. No. I am not ok (right now), but I will be. That is what I want to tell everybody. Maybe I can get a t-shirt made. That would be kind of cool. Maybe I can get a new line of shirts started that just go ahead and preemptively answer people’s awkward questions. Could be “Yes, that is a pimple” and “No, I am not pregnant” and so forth. Only issue is that I already have way too many t-shirts. What is a girl to do these days?
I take solace knowing that at some point I will be ok. Things may get a little tougher before it’s all ok, but that time will come. It has to. I will make it so for I always have. I’m a New Yorker. Enough said.
Categories: Health, mental health, photography, Pop Culture, Psychology
I believe people sincerely care and that is why they inquire. It may seem awkward but comes from a caring heart.
I think you are experiencing the world of disability, the place where one is both the object of attention and invisible. May there be many who will meet you where you are.
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I feel this so much. I get it. Also, I would buy your tshirts if you ever made them. I need them. Hahaha.
EGBOK – “EVERYTHINGS GONNA’ BE OK”
I had a boss during the time period when the acronym was created, as described below. I still use it, and I think you could, too!
The origin of the phrase is credited to two Los Angeles radio personalities, Al Loman and Ken Minyard. The Phrase EGBOK was trademarked by KABC-AM Radio in Los Angeles during the early 1980’s and was used to promote the so-called “Ken and Bob Company” show, i.e. (KABC). The radio station gave away buttons with the phrase to promote the early morning program.
The show dominated the Greater Los Angeles market and the buttons were seen throughout Los Angeles, Ventura and Orange Counties. The phrase was on everyones’ lips and became a cultural phenomina. Today, a quarter of a century after it was coined the phrase, when spoken, sparks the memories of those old enough to have listened to the program. The “word” and the phrase are inseperable and are spoken in the same breath.
It’s use became popular across the United States and today, Google has over 23,000 entries on the subject. The broadcasting team eventually broke-up and the trademark was allowed to die.
Today, the phrase is used extensively in Cognitive Behaviorial Therapy to counteract negative self talk. It’s become a shorthand method of reassuring ourselves that no matter what happens, we’ll survive and continue to grow.
oh how cool. thanks for sharing that. Had never heard of EGBOK. going to use it going forward