The day after a beautiful tribute

It was not something I had thought about. It’s not something I had ever envisioned doing. It’s not something I had looked forward to. But I did it. The day came and not only got through it, but it also went well.

I’m talking about the memorial service for my husband, esoterx. I was able to showcase his love of family, writing, and doing a job- well done. His intellectual curiosity and sharp wit were on full display. And, fittingly so, we held his service at the writer’s den.

Ever since his passing, I worked on this day and night, alongside my regular job, while addressing everyday life challenges. I had a circle of friends who supported me in this process, and I most certainly could not have done this without their support. This event and the beautiful tribute resulted from it “takes-a-village” mentality.

What I am most grateful for was that my son got to see and hear the love and admiration others had for his father. That, in itself, was priceless.

Now comes the next phase. Whatever it will be.

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  1. Thank you for the link. But it makes the loss even more tangible.
    I remember almost losing my husband to an unexpected heart attack when he was the same age, and I was already ill, and we had three small children. Again, my deepest sympathies.


  2. Mild Mannered IT Specialist with the New York Public
    Library and Paranormal Explorer of the Esoteric
    In Niche’s With Limited Interest in Our
    Ever Increasing Material Reductionist
    World Seeking Order Over the Chaos Magic
    of the Mystic Beyond Common Reasons With SMiles
    Yes With SMiLes i Scanned The Whole Decade of Your
    Husband’s Blog And It Lit Up Many Potential ‘Rabbit Holes’
    To Explore too
    Dear Miriam
    As i am Not one
    To Exclude Possibilities
    And Potentials in Life Beyond
    Manilla Folders And Oh Dear Lord
    A Degree Holder in Anthropology As
    Well and Health Science And Social
    Sciences too of Course i Ended Up
    Assisting my Work Place in
    Information Technology
    And Financial Management
    As Oh Dear Lord Ya Gotta Make
    A Living on Top of Your more Esoteric
    Interests in Life as Generally Speaking
    (Hehe i Also Subscribed to ‘Omni Magazine’)
    Very Few People With Anthropology Degrees
    Get to Use Their Degrees in that Specific Field
    Yet as Far as Special Interests in Uncommon Niche’s
    It’s Surely Not Uncommon With Folks on the Autism Spectrum
    More Specifically Asperger’s Syndrome as Many Topics of Esoteric
    Flavors Your Husband Explored Have Been Explored on the ‘Wrong Planet’
    As Well For the
    Most Definitely
    Eccentric Humans
    Among Us Obviously
    me Included too to the
    Chagrin of my Paternal
    Side That Saw my Top of the
    Class Performance Through
    Years and Years of School
    As A Guarantee to a Yellow
    Brick Road of Bucks Thank God
    my Father Left And Never Came Through
    on His Promises to Pay for Our College Education
    As He Surely Wouldn’t Likely Have Paid For A Ticket to
    (Grants, Scholarships, Loans, Part Time Work Worked)
    Nowhere Of Golden Road For Bucks on the Other Hand
    Yes my Mother Was Almost Totally Non-Materialistic
    Yes Living off of 500 Dollars A Month in Social Security
    Bucks Refusing the Entitlement to Supplemental Income
    As She Had the Autotelic Kind of Personality Along with
    Hyperthymic Personality Traits That Trump All Dreams of
    AS Such Hehe
    Ah Yes And That Inheritance
    of Disposition in Freedom for
    me Still Exploring Rabbit Holes
    And Creating Them Everywhere i go
    Yes As Truly An Anthropology Participant
    Observer as Collegiately Trained too God
    Yes Easy to Do After Retirement For Sure
    What Better Skill Than Free Verse Poetry
    of SoUL SonG to Gain Keys to Access the
    Deepest of Souls in Humans Globally
    to Write an EPiC Longest Long
    Form Poem in Response to
    Folks All Around the World
    Yes Truly Really Celebrating
    Today as Well “Nether Land
    Bible 9 MiLLioN WordS Old”
    Just Another Ongoing EPiC Long
    Form Subchapter Poem of 11.4 MiLLioN
    Word “SonG oF mY SoUL” 81 Months Now
    Yes For the Former Coming on 2.26.2023
    And 9 Years And 6 Months For the Whole
    Esoteric Mammoth Endeavor Oh How Wonderful
    It is to Never Worry About Pleasing Any Target
    Audience When the Art Itself is the Essence
    of the Esoteric And The Mystical
    Revealed the Same
    in Flow of
    Heaven Within
    i Listened to Some of Your
    Husband’s Podcasts So Now i
    Am Just Another Fan Who Will
    Never Forget Him as a Unique
    Human Being Worth Remembering…
    As ‘They’ Say We Die Three Times As
    We Take Our Last Breath As We Are Buried
    Or Cremated Or Whatever And the Last Instance
    Someone Utters Our Name on Earth Yet i’d Rather
    Be Remembered
    By How i Make
    Others Feel
    Name At All
    As Feelings Can’t
    Be Measured Fully by Labels Indeed…
    Or The Deeper Parts of Our Humanity
    Within Baffling Most All Material Reducing Minds…
    “Esoterx” A Great Name for Your Husband’s Esoteric Niche
    Blog Perhaps i’ll Be Able to Turn Some Others Folks On to His Life too…
    Awe Waves of Seriality Synchronicities No Labels Required For the Miracle
    of Life
    to Truly
    Chaos Magic
    Art Beyond
    All Reasons
    Yet Order
    That Most
    Folks Don’t
    Come Close to
    In PuResT Faith Of ArtS Unfolding
    iN Bliss Loving All of Life Experience…
    iNDeed “Nether” Land Exploring the
    Great Underground of Subconscious Existence
    RiSinG to
    The Surface
    Of Awareness
    YeS iN Essence
    oF Arts Still Forming…
    See How This Works If Not
    For Your Husband’s Life None
    Of These Words Will Be Breathing On Your Page Now Yes Newly
    EXPLoRinG Every SPiRiT HEaRT SoUL All UNiQuE Multi-UNiVeRSES ReaL..:)


  3. He sounds like he was a wonderful man, husband, and father. I’m glad you were able to highlight his character and reminisce with friends and family.
    Be gentle with yourself going forward.
    I truly hope your son will continue the blog his dad started, in his own words.


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