Surprisingly, no one wanted the cupcakes

Many years ago I was called in to see my son’s teacher. This was pre-k. What could the teacher want to talk to me about? Turns out my son didn’t  (and still doesn’t) like cupcakes. But he felt some obligation to be polite. His four year old brain of politeness. He would pick up a cupcake, lick it and put it back. I had a chuckle. The teacher, not so much. Oh well. He doesn’t do that anymore.

But, I have been a bit random.

Fast forward to this week. A group of us went to a local bar for a group outing. The place was fairly full.  Everyone was laughing, talking, and drinking. Then a young man came in from across the street. He works at a local bakery. Apparently, they had a boxful of leftovers. In a goodwill gesture, he went from table to table offering baked good from a box. And, surprisingly no one took a single pastry.

None of us were tempted. No one took one and licked it and put it back. Well, as far as I could tell. For a second, I wondered if now we are completely conditioned to not take any “candy” from strangers. Whatever it may be the poor guy left with a completely full box of goods. I would have thrown a party. Hope he got to enjoy them

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  2. Two very engaging anecdotes! I felt sorry for you, your son, and the teacher in the first. In the second, even if I knew the pastries were safe, I would have refused to eat one because I suffer from diabetes, but I still pity the young man with his generous impulses.


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