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I don’t want to look at you

Lately, I’ve been in a bit of an irritated state of mind. I jokingly called it 27 days ago my vaccine rage state of mind. And, yes this means I get my second dose tomorrow. Lord knows what my mood will be like. It’s not the vaccine. Let me just clarify that. I was making a joke to ease those around me. If I can externalize my irritable mood to a vaccine people feel better. They ease up on their own state of guilt wondering if they did something foolish to irritate me. I should clarify for the them, that indeed they did irritate me. But that will come later.

I haven’t talked of my pet peeves in a while and we are now fully into the new year. I must address a new pet peeve of mine.

Lately, there’s been one phrase in particular that has been especially irritating. While sitting and talking with a few people, I have found a few who emphatically insist as they are making a point that I need to look at them. This is occuring in business meetings of sorts. These people want an eye audience for their repeated point. We heard you the first and second time. Who are these people who outright demand to be looked at? You then look at them and you think “so what?”

I just want to state in the moment to just let me be. I will process the information as is best for me. You can’t force people to process information in the manner you would like. That is not how to win over people. So, says my vaccine brain.

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  1. SMiles Often
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  2. Excellent point about letting people process.

    I think it’s called ‘lack of a theory of mind’ when someone is incapable of understanding that other people see the world differently.

    Good luck with the vaccine.

    Husband and I got our second dose last Thursday. My arm is still sore, and red at the spot, and painful if I push – so I don’t push!

    We (in our 70s) had a day or so of reactions, not serious enough to do anything much, but uncomfortable, as did a lot of people here at our retirement community who had their second shot, and then it has been basically fine.

    But be prepared in case it needs you to rest or take an antipyretic the next day – I was a little (extra) grumpy.

    Also note: the dictionary in WordPress can’t handle antipyretic. That’s the correct spelling. It wanted to change it to ‘antipathetic’ (which made me giggle). The dictionary in WordPress also can’t handle WordPress.

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  3. My limited experience is that “look me in the eyes when I am talking to you” is something said by someone who is scolding you. Or at least some absolute authority requiring detailed obedience, like a demanding parent. My instinctive reaction is to tell them to shove it.

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