Losing a family member is devastating. When my mom died my worst nightmare had come true. I couldn’t believe I no longer could talk to her and have her fret over my travel. When I my dog died, a year after my mother on a Friday the 13th, I was distraught. My dog was part of the family. Two years prior, my mentor had died tight around the same time of the year. The early part. I don’t quite get how year after year, around the same time, I lost someone.
Then things calmed down a little. Fast forward to last year when five people I knew died. And, not just five people but people in my world orbit. Then I saw a Facebook post which noted that grief over a friend was just as painful as that as grief over a family member. And, most certainly that cam be true. Grief intensity isn’t a straight marked set of categories.
When I lost a friend early in the year last year, I was a bit numb while extremely sad and perturbed. Such a mix state of being can occur. And, I got to thinking as to how I was over the act of grieving. But you don’t necessarily will that away. Everyday, I grieve the loss of my mother. For my dear friend, I do not necessarily grieve everyday for her, but every now and again she pops up in my thoughts. And, I think and am reminded of how unfair life can be. And, I’m still part of the caring circle she assembled to help address her cancer, and eventual death. That last part keeps the grieving a constant. As well as a celebration of her life.
I’m not too sure why someone on Facebook felt the need to remind us all of this type of grief. But it stayed in my thoughts and now it’s onto (virtial) paper. I may need to go on a search for other insights.