Sometimes you just have to be willing to walk away from something. You just have to be able to say “no thanks“. You just have to be able to say “I’m done“. That’s not often easy to do. Actually, more often than not it is extremely hard to do. People waiver, waffle and wait things out. Occasionally, that may be the right tactic. Often, waiting things out is just too damaging. Thus, you just got to pack your metaphorical bags and head out.
I believe that with the advent of social media, it’s become easier to walk away. I know that may sound like a very weird idea or theory. Here’s the thing. With the proliferation of social media, you can see and learn about other options. In a way, we are less rooted and more transient as a result of social media. We not only think there is more out there, but we can now verify (to some extent).
Now, I am not being super philosophical or wish to debate the universe’s expanse. I’m just being realistic and reflecting on what I did this week.
I was looking forward to purchasing a home. Ok. Let me take that back. Purchasing? No. I was looking forward to having a new home. I’ve looked at over 100 houses by now. By last week, I have put in five offers in the past two months. Finally, one had gone through. We were 20 days into escrow and then the record scratched. There was a slight problem on the seller’s part. And we were done.
We walked away and cancelled escrow because there was no reason for us to try to work it out and give them another chance. Yes, I have been looking for many months at this point. And, yes, I have see over 100 houses thus far. However, there has been nothing that I have fallen in love with that I just had to have. Maybe I’m jaded. Everything I have put in an offer, was “good enough”. I was happy enough but not in ecstasy. I’m not too sure that there are houses out there than one can be ecstatic about. They are either too pricey, too small, too old, or too “unique” (craftsman). I know you can’t have everything but this housing market is insane when a burned down house can still go for upwards of $500,000 with no concessions.
Because the market is crazy, I have told myself that it is ok to walk away at any point should the transaction prove to be too difficult or uncomfortable. Its my hard-earned money that will pay for this and I need to be protective of it and be willing to tell someone “I’m done.”
Here I am. Five house offers in and not one to show for it. But It will be alright. I just put in twe more today. This process will work out in the end. I know it. Patience to find what’s right and fortitude to walk away from what is wrong. I suppose this is pertinent to life overall.