Have you ever heard of the band “Thirty seconds to Mars”? Jared Leto has stated that the name is a reference to the fact that we’re so close to something that’s not a tangible idea. While I cannot profess to understand Jared Leto -certainly his Oscar wardrobe left some of us wondering a to his state of being- his very abstract idea resonates with me. These days I feel I am so close to something that is yet so far away because of its nebulous nature. Did that make any more sense than Leto?  I know that come next February, I want to be on my path to a new greatness.  Where I am at now, is just temporary-a stepping stone to something grander. I have not figured out quite what that grander thing is. One thing I am considering, believe it or not, is running for public office.  Hey, if Trump can do it, psychologist mimi can do it!

Of course, I have no where near his money and cannot base my campaign on the fact that I am rich. But I am charming. Hopefully, I would be able to take that charm to the bank.  I may not start that process come February. I do know, however, that I cannot stand still in waters that are murky.

Just standing still in murky, dirty waters, is akin to dying. Standing still means losing 21 grams- which is the reported weight loss from death. Some have argued that the loss of 21 grams represents the departure of the soul immediately following death. Muddy waters can be soul sucking. Don’t get stuck in a rut or in a place that makes you lose a key piece of yourself. I  have come to find that it is not worth getting one’s feet muddied. You can try and try your best and still get hammered down by the powers that be.

In order to not get stuck in muddy waters, I recommend that you all go ahead and create a vision board that serves as your road map forward. Have you ever created or heard of such an endeavor?  You lay out your goals visually on a board (yes, quite literal) and place the board in a place that you will see it on a daily basis. When you create a vision board and place it in a space where you see it often, you are engaging various parts of your senses as as well as engaging your future you -or what psychologists like to refer to as your possible self.

Part of that possible self comes from your dreams -both your aspirational goals as well as your literal nighttime dreams. Do you know that upon waking up you have seven seconds to remember your dream or else it will flutter away into the neverland?  Our brains are great at coming up with many new ideas but they can just as quickly dissipate into nothingness. The number seven is very important psychologically in terms of memory. For instance, have you noticed that phone number s are seven digits long?  Our brain can chunk items into seven pieces of memory. So when you get up, quickly jot down those dreams you just experienced. In that dream you may have just solved the world peace problem or how you are going to pay next month’s loan bill. your sleeping self may hold the key to what your possibly self can be. Don’t just let that information, that is coming from deep within you, flutter away into nothingness. You have seven seconds to remember while there are 30 seconds to Mars.