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I Could Have Been a Contender (But Also Maybe I Still Am?)



Somewhere between the velvet ropes of glory and the folding chairs of “we regret to inform you,” lives a curious little purgatory called almost.

Enter Diego Pavia. Once whispered in the same breath as the Heisman Trophy, now conspicuously absent from the draft board like the last guest not picked for dodgeball. And not because he forgot his jersey.

Let’s pause here. A Heisman contender. Undrafted. In today’s hyper-analyzed, over-measured, combine-obsessed world? That’s not just rare. That’s practically a glitch in the matrix. Somewhere, a spreadsheet is having an existential crisis.

The Heisman, deservedly, went to Mendoza this year (and yes, we clap for excellence where it is due), but Pavia wasn’t exactly lurking in the shadows. He was in the conversation. And then poof. Not even a late-round flyer.

Cue Marlon Brando in On the Waterfront “I coulda been a contender.”

Except here’s the thing. We usually reserve that line for people looking backward. Pavia is still standing in the present, helmet in hand, wondering how the script skipped a few pages.

So what happened?

Was it the height? At 5’10”, he’s not exactly the towering prototype that NFL scouts tend to swipe right on. The league has a type, and it’s less “scrappy underdog” and more “built in a lab somewhere in Texas.” Yes, exceptions exist. But exceptions are exhausting. They have to prove themselves twice before breakfast.

Was it attitude? That elusive, squishy, entirely subjective word that has quietly derailed many a talented human. “Leadership concerns.” “Coachability.” “Fit.” Translation into “we’re not sure how you’ll behave in our carefully curated ecosystem.” And in a billion-dollar industry, uncertainty is the ultimate dealbreaker.

Or maybe, and this is the uncomfortable part, it’s neither. Maybe it’s timing. Optics. A bad game at the wrong moment. A narrative that didn’t quite stick. Success, we like to believe, is meritocratic. But it also has a PR team.

And here’s where it gets human.

Because going from contender to not selected isn’t just a career pivot. It’s a psychological whiplash. One minute, you’re being measured for greatness. The next, you’re being measured for why not. Every inch, every throw, every perceived flaw suddenly becomes the reason.

That’s a hard fall. Not from the top, but from the almost.

But if we’re being honest (and we are, because what is a psychologistmimi moment without a little truth wrapped in sass), almost is not failure. It’s unfinished business.

History quietly loves the overlooked. The ones who slip through drafts, through cracks, through conversations. The ones who have to claw instead of glide. They don’t just want it. They develop a relationship with wanting it. A long, messy, resilient relationship.

So maybe this isn’t the end of Pavia’s story. Maybe it’s the part where the lighting gets dramatic, the music swells, and the protagonist stops waiting for permission.

Because here’s the quiet rebellion.

You don’t have to be chosen to become.

And somewhere, I like to imagine Diego Pavia tossing a ball, not as a lament but as a promise.

Not  I could have been a contender.

But Just wait.

3 replies »

  1. Not Drafted to the NFL Not Really Surprising
    Not Drafted into a Major College Either

    True He Could Have got a Partial
    Scholarship for Wrestling as a

    State Champion

    in that

    Completely
    Different Yet
    Similar Sport

    That at BEST Requires
    Grit that Comes With Heart

    That Can’t Be Measured by a Tape

    Not Even Predicted By AI as “Black
    Swan” Impacts Do Come Real doing the

    Impossible Leading Vanderbilt to Crush
    Number 1 Alabama in 2024 True no Stellar
    Forty-Yard Dash Height or Weight to Quarterback

    A Team according
    to Statistics alone

    Yet Grit that comes from
    Heart totally Ignores Statistics

    And Just Does What it does with Grit
    And Heart without Fail as Excellence Becomes

    A Way to Breathe Notice i haven’t mentioned
    Diego Pavia’s Name Until Now or Cinco De Mayo

    The Date that Also Celebrates His Mexican American Way

    Yet i’ve Already Seen that Grit and Heart Among Countless

    Mexican American Immigrants Building And Re-Roofing Homes

    In A Hurricane Prone State That Needs that Grit and Heart Most to Stay Afloat

    on
    Solid Ground

    Build a Roof in a Day
    With Grit and Heart

    Still Building Families

    With Children Nestled

    Closely to Mother’s Breast

    Indeed Rarely ever missing a
    Date at the Catholic Church Either

    How Sadly Some Folks Despise what
    That ‘Say’ They Cherish Most in Life

    Yet That’s Okay Grit and Heart Hair don’t give no F’s

    With Smiles Dear Miriam
    As True No Matter What
    Category Grit and Heart comes in

    Most often IS

    The Last
    Humans
    Left Standing

    What those born
    With Silver to Golden
    Spoons rarely ever Be

    Rising
    Out of Dirt
    Grit and Heart Wings Free

    So Yeah Happy Cinco De Mayo Day too
    With
    SMiLes..:)

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