The past month has been leading up to this week and one day in particular. The memorial services are this week. So much preparation goes into putting on a celebration of life that you become numb to a lot of things throughout the days. And, most people won’t understand even if they are trying to be helpful or just there for you. It’s a lonely endeavor.
Today, I had to sadly bite the bullet and do some final prep work that is not mind-numbing. These bits are more emotional.
Today, I helped my 14 year old son pick out the suit for his father’s memorial service. First off, he hates trying on clothes. Second, we finally went into my spouse’s closet. And, there were his suits. I slowly unzipped the suit bags and pulled a few out. Luckily, the second one fit my son. He fit into his dad’s suit.
It is a momentous occasion at any time. But, today, it was riddled with sadness. They say with time, pain eases. I know it does. I’ve been through grief before. But seeing my son wear that suit was heartbreaking. We both stood quiet and noted that suit was the one. I then quietly packed it up with the memory book.
Categories: Children, death, family, mental health, Psychology
psychologistmimi 
So sorry. This is so very hard.
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Very sorry for yours and your son’s loss.
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SMiLes Giving A Euology
At mY Father’s Funeral Dear
Miriam my Uncle Complained
That i Was Wearing Shorts and A
T-Shirt
Some How
Forgetting
my Father Put
Away His Suit
After He Retired too
If Only We Could Have
Found What Lives Underneath
my Father’s SKin Oh to Know And
Feel and Sense A Loved One Enough to
Miss Them
With A Tear…
There Are Losses
That Never Even Begin
And There Are Loves
Where the Suit
of Soul Alway Lives…
True It’s Life It’s Warm
It’s Cold It’s Colorful And Stale
And Some Days You Just Wanna Get Through…
And Some
Others
Ya
Never
Wanna Leave
Eternally New Now…
Wishing You A Great
Journey on the Other Side of the Moon..:)
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Sending love and peace to you and your son.
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Sending you both lots of hugs and healing vibes. I am so, so sorry. We are all with you in spirit now.
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This was very sad to read but I also thought it was a fitting tribute to your son’s father to wear his father’s suit to the memorial service.
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Sorry for your loss
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As you complete each of these steps, you are teaching your son how to handle the losses he will face. Even more than most kids, because this was of the biggest blows a child will receive.
He sees you being strong – somewhere deep inside he also knows you are doing it for him, too. Even if he doesn’t understand it all now, he will remember, and know how it should feel.
It is still heartbreaking – how could it not be? With you in spirit.
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Sitting here, with tears in my eyes for your words, knowing how it feels, when dad passed away in 2021 and I’m old, but it hurts so much…….I wish you so much strength for this difficult hard day ❤
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