It’s a Sunday night and I’ve been binge watching (way too much bunge watching) the television show Pretty Little Liars. It’s a ridiculous show with plotholes 10 football fields deep. However, it is quite entertaining. Although, I must add the dating relationships for these young pretty liars are quite fraught with numerous unethical, borderline illegal pairings. And, I won’t touch that here. Although, in a way I will.
Let me explain.
These featured relationships on these little Liars show really should have been pushed aside by these young women at numerous times. But it seemed as if they suscribed to the 1970s Love Story mantra “love means never having to say you’re sorry”. It is quite a ridiculous catchphrase uttered by Ali MacGraw’s character. How do you heal without forgiveness is a difficult process. Especially when we’ve hurt someone we love, we absolutely need to apologize—sincerely and contritely.
But back to a different part of this consideration. Sometimes you have to say goodbye. And, it is not because the love is no longer there. But it’s because you love yourself enough to find and create a safe, caring space. Saying goodbye can be even more healing than apologizing. Especially, if it’s one apology after another.