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A gentle “no” overcomes an insincere “yes”

There are times when one is stretched too thin, is worn out, and can’t quite stomach yet another item on the to-do list. Yet, we still say “yes” to helping out or going to some event. Basically, there are a number of things we often say “yes” to even though we’d rather do anything but that.

We can say “yes” for a number of reasons. For example, we truly want to help. We may also say “yes” automatically out of reflex. Perhaps we are to scared to say otherwise. Also, we could say “yes” to look good knowing full well we have no intention of following through. That last one being a deep sign of inauthenticity. People, can at times, see through that immediately. Sometimes, it takes a bit for them to catch one. But eventually they do.

Quite often, we should say “no” for a million and one reasons. However, we’re sometimes afraid to do so for fear of appearing to be mean-spirited, egocentric, or callous. We often say “yes” for the wrong reasons. We aim to please but because it was not the right “yes” we fail and sputter. And, that’s not a good look.

Here’s the take home. A gentle “no” outshines an insincere “yes”. A gentle “no” may be better for your health and relationships in the long-run.

4 replies »

  1. When you really can’t, a ‘no’ right away, though disappointing, is better than promising and leaving later in the lurch.

    For me it’s easier: everyone now knows that the chronically ill disabled person doesn’t have any spoons for other people. They’ve stopped asking, most of the time.

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  2. SMiLes my “Yes-Mo” Feeling A Bit
    Fatigued This Afternoon So i Used
    one of Many Free Covid-19 Tests

    As Ordinarily i Do
    “Yes-Mo” in All i Do
    As Energizer Bunnies

    Will Yet It’s True EveNTuaLLY

    Wile E. Coyote Has Been Recorded

    To Catch Up With Road Runner too

    And me And my Wife Are Testing

    Positive For Covid-19 hehe

    Mild Symptoms Yet

    “No-Mo” Energizer

    Bunny Road Runner

    For A While As Again

    Even Wile E. Coyote

    Will Have ‘His’
    Say in Lives

    of Road
    Runners

    Who Just
    Come Out to Play..:)

    Like

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