Many years ago, I was sitting with a group of fellow psychologists who were in earnestness contemplating how three words in a sentence would have an impact in a huge web of bureaucracy. This sentence may seem vague and ambiguous. And, thus it is so. The main point being that a group of people felt quite self-important when what they were doing really didn’t carry much weight. I sat there astounded and marveled at their grandiose sense of self. Then, I remembered I was a psychologist and I shouldn’t be so shocked.
Within that same context, after all the contemplation around a few words came to pass, we sat there talking about our own individual lives. Well, as much as self-aware acquaintances can really tolerate. In that spirit, I shared my sense of being overloaded and trying to figure out how to carry it all. And, in their standard sense of generosity one said to me “well, you chose to do that work. You asked for that, no?” And, another, followed with “you knew what you were signing up for…”
Well, no. At times, when you take on new life projects, you may not know the full scope. Either because it’s actually hard to fully grasp something without being in the context or some other party outright lied. Sometimes, it’s a cocktail of these and other excuses. The same way you don’t always get what you want. You often don’t get what you think you’re getting. And, then you’re in a pickle. Do you run as fast as possible or do you hunker down? For the most, I have hunkered down and gotten done what needed to be done. Someone, once remarked that they were impressed by my resiliency and fortitude in sticking out a most ghastly situation.
Here’s the thing. Even if you know what you’re supposedly getting yourself into, you never truly know. Situations are so dynamic. And, even ignoring situational complexity, one should get kudos for basically running into a burning building. Even, if one complains therafter pf the sustained burns.