In psychology, we note that there are times (many often) in which we may not know why we have done or said something. Sometimes we can’t quite spell out a why. We don’t always know our own motivation.
As kids, we are (were) honest about not knowing why we did something. “Why you hit jimmy?” Shrug. Put on impish face. “I don’t know.” As we get older we get pressed more readily for the “why”. And, at times we oblige. Even when we know no more than we did when we were kids.
Where am I going with this? There are “why” and there are “how” people. The “why” people need buy-in and motivation. The “how” people need structure. The how people may just be happier people in the end. Happier than the “why” people, that is.
Often we are not satisfied with the why answers we get. Often we give incomplete, even inaccurate, why answers ourselves. We are all on some journey through our lives and we must have patience as we seek answers from others as well as ourselves. We also need to be on point and on the lookout for those who give easy answers- particularly as it comes to the rationale for their behaviors toward you.
Categories: childhood, identity, Management, mental health, Psychology, society
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Yeah It’s ‘Funny’ Dear Psychologist
Mimi When Folks In the Same Breath
Ask Me Why i Always
Dance And Sing
Forever Now
Free Like This
Is No Tomorrow
Or Yesterday For
Never Any Money,
Or Other Expected
Rewards or Awards
Externally Of Course
And Then They Ask
How in the World You
(What Drugs are You On)
Stay So Happy Always
Blood, Sweat, And Tears
Is The How of Loving Life
The Rest oF iT iS Rather Easy
Inhaling Peace Exhaling LoVE NoW…
Within WHeRE No Fear or Anxieties Exist
All All That’s Left Over After That Grace
in Balance of Foundation LoVE NoW is
Strength of WiLL ETeRNaLLY NoW
For Real
For Real
For Real
That is the Hardest
Part For Others Now to
See Why And How For Real…
Like Any Other Living Tree With
Leaves That Rise Green Feeding Higher
Leaves Falling Brown Fertilizing New Trees
Moves That Become Steps of Holy Dance Now
Words That Become Song of Holy Poetry No Different
Except in This Case i Control The Weather Within Mastering
Pleasure…
Blood,
Sweat
And
Tears
BRingS For Real..:)
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My experience is that there are different kinds of “Why?” people. “Why” is actually a quest for causality. Some are seeking a deeper understanding of “how” the world works.
And then there are the people who ask why in looking for a way to place blame and not to understand anything deeper. “Why did you do it?” becomes a trial by which your motives are judged as adequate or inadequate.
Then, there is something to be said for people who persist in asking, “Why not?”
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