Considering the ubiquitous nature of cameras (well through cellphones and the like) it is amazing in a way how not many people really look at each other. Like really look. What color of eyes does your boss have? Do you really know or you can just make a fairly educated guess. Does anyone on your team have a mustache? What’s your relative height to others on your team? People don’t really process each other in real time.
The other day I was startled when I noticed that a colleague had a mustache. While I listened to him explain a problem, I kept asking myself whether he had always had a mustache.
Now there are certainly things that are noticed. People will notice whether my hair is straight or curly that day. For some, I can’t tell, it’s because they are quite confused how my hair can be so multi-textured. People will also notice my 6-inch heels and shiny new dress. They’ll notice, more often than not, my “statement” or rather the symbol of my statement. Most, admittedly, won’t get my statement. And that’s ok with me.
While many will note my new hairstyle or dress, many have not noticed when something was a little off. I’m often in a hurry getting ready in the morning. Who isn’t? On occassion, I have worn mismatched earrings. Considering that some major designers purposefully sell high-priced mismatched earrings, I don’t blame anyone for not noticing mine (that were not purposefully mis-matched). On another occasion I wore a dress inside out but the seams added to the coolness factor.
Just today I wore my yoga pants inside out. Before I headed to the elevator I actually noticed their disheveled shape. And I decided to not change them. I figured no one would notice. I was also too lazy to change them.
Now this past week, someone did tell me of something I was wearing incorrectly. I had a pair of sunglasses on my head as I entered Starbucks. I placed my order and had to search my bag for my wallet. In doing so, I came across my sunglasses. I placed them on my head. Paid. Waited for my name to be called. Then my colleague noted to me that I was wearing two pairs of sunglasses on my head. I looked a fool. Thankfully, somebody finally told me. Why?
Was that person more straightforward or did they actually want to save me from embarassment? Maybe that person felt more familiar with me and thus wasn’t afraid to say something?
Saving others from embarassment is a kind thing. And is also personal. Not everyone feels the need to help out. I recall many years ago, a woman on the train platform walking ahead of me, had her skirt stuck up in her underwear. Many had seen and passed by and had not alerted her. I ran up to her and advised her of the situation and just ran ahead. I didn’t want to see her embarassment. There were others who had not noticed at all. People were just walking about in their own little cloud. We are all a bit zombie these days . Apocalypse now indeed.
Categories: Culture, Humor, identity, mental health, Psychology, workplace
psychologistmimi 
When you wear your pants inside out rarely do i think this actually happens and no one noticed, i like your thoughts about the way people view others in a work atmosphere or in the public eye, based on a person’s appearance in so many words to give you a visual effects what i mean by being judged on a person’s personal appearance, it doesn’t matter what a person looks like or what that individual is wearing, on the inside of ourselves our feelings and intelligent respectful thoughts for one another in all situations or in daily activities of life, look inside of a person’s personality and then you will see from their heart in feelings for other people and in their thoughts of how this person interacts with people in the society, this is where now you can visually except that their heart and mind of thoughts are dressed just right.
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Thanks for sharing your thoughts. Very much agree.
Have a great week ahead
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Thank you so much for liking my thoughts and also my writing ability , Most Sincerely i thank you for liking my comment.
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Thank you so much for liking my thoughts and also my writing ability, Most Sincerely, I thank you once again.
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2 pairs of sunglasses on head is cool!
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Lol. Thanks 😉
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I once saw a woman on a London bus who had a hanger attached to the back of her collar.I mentioned this to her in a quiet voice and she looked at me and told me to “mind my own …expletive…..business”. So I’ve left hangars and inside out trousers alone from then on.
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No way! That’s crazy. I think i too would be hesitant thereafter.
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I remember once leaving the house with two different pairs of shoes on, and not noticing all day. If others noticed, they didn’t say a word. Perception, I think, is half what we think and half what we THINK others think. If that makes any sense. 🙂 Another thought provoker.
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oh my. Two pairs of shoes. thats awesome. did you take a pic?
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Haha no but I should have. This was in the days before social media, thank God!
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I like it when people help me out (that piece of spinach stuck on my teeth), so if I notice I always do the same. 🙂
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Its definitely good to reciprocate and help out! Hopefully more people notice.
have a lovely week ahead. cheers, Mimi
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You too. 🙂
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I was in lectures the other week and the label of my top was sticking out. It displeased the person sitting behind me so much, that she felt the need to rather rudely inform me of how much this annoyed her. Then without asking she reached forward and tuck the label into my top.
Feeling like she was being unnecessarily mean and rude about something as silly a clothes label sticking out, I untucked my top label so it was sticking out again and told her I liked it that way. Safe to say she looked a bit shocked and confused.
I like when people tell me, I have something on my face or that my top on back to front because it saves me embarrassment, but some people can be so mean/rude about the silliest things, which really isn’t an okay thing for them to do.
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oh my. That was truly obnoxious on that lady’s part. Good for you to put the label back out 🙂
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