Yes, I am Puerto Rican by Way of Superstitions and Rituals: Avoiding the “Mal de Ojo”
I am always on the lookout for an evil eye: or the “mal de ojo” There are people who are so jealous of you that their energy gets converted into some weird negative force field around you causing you recurring harm. Yes, I totally believe in the evil eye because I am the queen of superstition and more importantly because I am Puerto Rican.
Superstition is a belief in supernatural causality: that one event leads to the cause of another without any physical process linking the two events that supposedly contradicts natural science. It is also commonly applied to beliefs and practices surrounding luck, prophecy and spiritual beings, particularly the belief that future events can be foretold by certain unrelated actions or inactions. I have been trained in the scientific method and I am appropriately skeptical of certain higher-order beliefs. However, one can’t ignore or escape from one’s upbringing. Growing up there were all sorts of odd things that till this day I am trying to figure out. Now that my mom has passed away, I am trying to find some answers on my own.
At the entrance of my current house, I have a piece of artwork that I found in a random thrift store in Portland, Maine that depicts an upside-down broom. I could not believe my eyes when I saw it in the store’s bin! Growing up, I had been told that if you wanted unwanted guests (or guests that had overstayed their original welcome) to leave you should place an upside–down broom by the door. By having this painting next to my house’s entryway, I won’t have to look a bit strange by placing an actual broom by the door. Really comes in handy.
Now of course, many of us grew up thinking that if we were to break a mirror that would be seven years of bad luck; which makes me wonder why haven’t we developed better ways of protecting compact mirrors and such. Seems like we are just tempting fate in a worldwide level (hmm, maybe that’s what’s wrong with the world).
I started “touring” my house to get a sense of where superstitions lie in my world. Starting from the entryway on up, there are bits here and there that show rituals are just a very common part of life. Let me walk you through these rituals.
- Dropping utensils: Supposedly, if you drop a fork, a man will come to visit; drop spoon, a woman will come to visit and drop a knife, there will be a fight. I seem to apply the “five second rule” because as soon as I drop a utensil I quickly hurry to pick it up as if by picking it up quickly no one will come and no fight will occur.
- The rule of threes: Everything comes in threes; especially deaths. This is very much true. Just the other day I nearly got hit twice by a car and I just knew there was bound to be a third near-miss (or hopefully near-miss). Sure enough, right as I neared my house a van made a wide turn and nearly hit me. Of course, the scientist in me recognizes that the data shows most accidents happen within 5 minutes of one’s house and that I was changing the song on my ipod at the time (so I was distracted, blah blah blah). But, I also just knew it was bound to happen. The law of 3’s is without fail. It just is.
- When your palm itches, you will come into some money: For some odd reason I never make it to the bodega to buy a lottery ticket when my hand itches. I guess deep down I realize that one may not be true, eh? But I do see that palm-itching is a way of instilling hope in certain impoverished blocks in the South Bronx. And, hope, is a good thing to have folks.
- Don’t open an umbrella or walk around with one shoe on in the house: There are a lot of rules as to what could be done inside the house and if these were violated very bad, bad things could happen. Opening an umbrella inside the house could lead to someone’s death. Wearing just one shoe could lead to the death one’s mother. My god, the guilt was laid on thick! I admit I have heart palpitations when my son takes these actions. I haven’t shared these particular superstitions with my son yet. Why cause him to be feel so guilty about potentially causing harm to his mother? Hmm, maybe I will share some of these words of caution when he starts dating.
- You have to be careful of looking in the mirror and combing your hair at night: I never understood this admonition. But it was one of the creepiest ones. It really did frighten me and till this day I don’t see the point of it (psychologically or anthropologically). I can tell you that one night I did quickly glance at the hallway mirror (next to the bathroom) and I saw a man staring back at me with a crazy red eye. A few days later, someone I knew suffered horrible eye burns at the restaurant he worked. Coincidence?
- You can suffer bodily harm if you open the fridge with a hot head ( “Te puedes palmar”): Meaning that you should not open the refrigerator after showering or right after waking up because your body is warm in both instances. This became a major issue at times when everyone woke up at the same time and people were hungry. And, let me tell you there was no changing my mom’s mind on this one.
- If you dream about your teeth falling out while eating, it means someone is going to die: I actually had that dream a lot while I was growing up. But then again, I was growing up in the South Bronx in the late ‘80s and yes, there were a lot of people dying. Spurious correlation?
- To get rid of hiccups, use a small red thread with saliva placed on the forehead. When I first saw celebrities such as Madonna with a red bracelet on, I thought they were just warding off the hiccups (or being zealously over-prepared). I didn’t readily get the Kabbalah connection. In any case, I have a spool of red thread in my kitchen drawer.
- A full glass of water behind the door will absorb bad spirits and energy in your house. For some reason, this also applied to elephants. So, throughout the years, I gave my mom a lot of porcelain elephants as holiday gifts.
- If you have a nosebleed, put a penny on your forehead. This one makes actual sense in regards to the properties of copper. But my main concern with this one was: why are there so many nosebleeds to prepare for? It reminds me of a Saturday Night Live skit in which an ad touted the great strength of this cleaner that could clean up pools of blood. If you have that many pools of blood to clean up, you may have a larger problem at hand. Nonetheless, keep a penny in your pocket for good measure.
Many laugh at these beliefs and rituals as silly and as signs of ignorance. But as a psychologist, let me bring up a psychological experiment from decades ago. In 1948, seminal psychologist B.F. Skinner published an article in the Journal of Experimental Psychology, describing what appeared to be superstitious pigeon behavior. One caged pigeon was turning circles and another swung its head in a pendulum motion. Because these pigeon behaviors were being done ritualistically to receive food, even though the dispenser had was programmed to release food at set time times, Skinner believed they were trying to influence their food dispensation by performing these actions. The pigeon behavior is similar to humans performing ritualistic superstition based behaviors (i.e. wearing a particular set of underwear when flying).
Rituals can be rooted in reality and represent an attempt to moderate that reality accordingly. So, I leave you with a new superstition that I will pass on to my children: be careful of eating cheese during certain times of the month because cheese can lead to pregnancy. It’s true, I tell ya. It’s true.
Categories: Culture, hispanic, identity, Psychology
Bientot la fin du mois et Novembre sera là
Tiens de ce jour je t’ai composé une recette pour avoir une bonne journée, te dire bonjour
Quelques Ingrédients : sourire, rires, bonne humeur, gaîté
Cette préparation il suffit de bien mélanger tous les ingrédients en quantité égale et verser le contenu dans votre vie Mon résultat final : une merveilleuse journée, bise amicale Bernard
Bonjour!!! merci pour la note! 🙂
That’s a lot to keep up with every day! Does it feel like you’re living in fear all the time or does it just feel normal?
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Yes, a lot of rules 🙂
After a while it’s second nature
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Oh, good for you!
There is too much compartmentalized dualism in our world ~ if one acknowledges the legitimacy of one way of thought it is assumed that one must also condemn its “opposite.”
But, as you’ve noted so capably, those are not really opposites at all but locations on a spectrum, like beads on a string or the individual facets of a gem, through each of which the same lovely gem appears slightly differently.
Science and magic can and should exist side by side ~ and I’m lost in admiration that you made it successfully through the shallow stagnant puddles of academia with your “superstitions” intact.
Intention is everything, right, no matter what it is we’re doing? And ritual is only focused intention.
You keep up the good work, girlfriend ~ we need to hear what you’re telling us.
Thanks for your note. I like how you frame the discussion.
Hope you are doing well.
I eat cheese all the time but have never been pregnant yet!
Thank you for sharing all of these superstitions. I know quite a number of Puerto Ricans (my son-in-law among them) and have never heard these. But I will definitely be sharing your blog with them.
All cultures have their superstitions and, like you, I have been educated (retired RN) but still these superstitions stay with you. I never do laundry on New Year’s Day (if you do you’ll be doing laundry for a funeral). I pay attention to who is the first person to show up at my house on New Year’s Day (best luck if it’s a handsome man). I’m also careful with mirrors and ladders and black cats. And I’m sure if I put my mind to it I could think of more……..Anyway thanks for posting this. It was most enjoyable and enlightening.