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The Psychology of the Polish Button and the Rise of the Curated Flaw



Somewhere between Instagram’s new polish button and the Kardashians walking into a bar pretending to sip a pint like they’ve done it every Tuesday since 1997, humanity has entered its most absurd era: the Age of Curated Imperfection.

Yes, apparently imperfection is now “in.” The smudged eyeliner, the messy bun, the “I just woke up like this” selfie that almost certainly required six attempts, three filters, a ring light, and a staged pile of laundry in the background to signal relatability. Even flaws now feel choreographed. As if we’re collectively auditioning for the role of “Authentic Human #3,” and the casting director will only believe us if we appear perfectly imperfect.

But honestly, hasn’t it always been this way? Long before Instagram, people practiced their smiles in mirrors before walking into parties; they turned their bodies just so when someone whipped out a camera; they pretended their shoes didn’t hurt while dying inside. Humanity has never been about pure, unfiltered authenticity. We’ve always polished ourselves. Instagram just gave us a button for it.

And then there are the Kardashians, the reigning monarchs of the Curated Life. I’ve never watched a single episode, but even I know that any time a Kardashian goes to a bar to drink a pint, there are at least three lighting technicians and one person whose sole job is to move their hair just off the shoulder. We all know they’re not living “authentically,” but somehow we keep consuming the fantasy. It’s as if like we’re watching a nature documentary about a species that thrives only in the wilds of Calabasas.

The real danger? We’ve become trained to perform for the camera at all times. It’s no longer “live your life and capture a moment”  it’s “capture a moment and then live your life around it.” Pose first, experience second. Filters optional, but encouraged.

And now, with the polish button promising to blur pores and soften reality, we risk forgetting what actual faces and actual lives look like. Imperfection used to be the natural baseline. Now it’s an aesthetic, an algorithm, a marketing strategy.

So maybe the most rebellious thing we can do in 2026 is to not polish. Not stage. Not curate the “mess.” Just be real, without the strategic smudge.

Although, let’s be honest. I’ll still take a photo from my good angle. We’re only human, after all.

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  1. “Orange is the New Black”

    Oh How Prophetic That

    Netflix Show Was Back
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    A Lot of Hard ‘Geek and
    Nerd’ Work Went into Inventing

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    for me too too Sure and for Others

    to Buy and Sell too Even Renovating
    my Favorite Walmart With Even Smoother
    Glassy Silver-White Ball Room Floor Store Aisles

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    in on the Distance Around the Globe About 6 Months
    After that or So Maybe even sooner as Yes no Doubt

    Even Better FRiEnDS
    with Gravity i Shall
    Be as the Walmart
    Lady in Charge of
    The Renovation
    Just Last Night
    Said i can’t
    Wait to See Your Moves

    Yet i Digress a bit Yet This is the Point

    The Orange is the New Black Shows

    That Eccentricity is Also the New Black

    It Used to Be On the Fourth of July in Sweltering
    Northwest Florida All the Men Wore Dark Suit Uniforms
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    Fitting Corsets too Just Soaking Up the Sweat Just Soaking

    Up the Sweat

    Having to Wash
    ALL THOSE
    Clothes By Hand

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    the Same 3 Black and White
    Channels and Shows True Somewhat

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    Around Life’s Water Coolers too Hmm

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    Has Downsides too Yuck from the

    Bottom of the Very Top Too Stink
    Stank Stunk With Orange Colored

    Grinches too

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    Black is Always Green
    The Never Ending Change
    of Creativity That We as PArt
    of Nature BRing FLoWeRS AlwayS UNFoLding
    Even After Wilting We Will Be too Yet Those

    Flowers that
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    The Bottom of the
    So-Called Top Either

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    Alien From Far away Visits Pensacola

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    Make Life Worth Living Still Now Yet Nothing New As Humans
    Live By the Stories Yes the Cultures We Create and Change

    Capable of the Most Beautiful Dreams and the Most Horrid

    Nightmares

    As That
    Orange
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    Sadly Black too

    What Will We Do if
    “The Future King of Mars
    Musk’s Prophecy” Comes True

    Where AI Does All the Jobs and
    All Of Life is Free to Do Without
    Any Money at All What Will We Do Indeed

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    Evolved For Constant Instant Gratification Where

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    Ice Cream
    Every Day
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    Depression Not Unlike
    Pressing the Cocaine
    Lever all the Way Now

    to Real HeLL ON EartH

    Well as always This Human
    Experiment Where We Are
    Both Guinea Pig and Scientist

    And At Best Artists Who Create
    Greater Ways to a More Perfect
    Union of Our Species to Live in Balance

    With the Rest of Nature Balance As Always Key

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    The Next ‘Beethoven, Mozart, Da Vinci, Einstein,
    And Even Jesus and Buddha and Lao Tzy if They

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    Bus Stop Just Playing
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    Facilities for Those

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    Outskirts Of Humanity Most

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    Be “NEO’s” Who Escape

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    Sarcasm And Tasmanian Devil Zest For Life’

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    Anyone
    Out there
    Is Plenty of Room

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    Came Before in the Audience At Hand

    Of Who comes Next
    This Much for sure
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    bored anymore Yet

    That’s Not Enough if
    We Leave the Warm PArts Out

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    Back to Life Out of Fiction too

    in ‘Just Another

    Day

    in A
    Life’ Too
    Making This
    my Best Life Now

    With No Guarantees
    of even one Second more

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    too gonna

    Paint

    my Life
    Always
    New Now
    With SMiLes
    And a Bit of
    Help From
    Some FRiEnDS

    Near And Even Far

    As ARTiFaCTS and Folks

    Beyond
    Antiquity

    Born Again Now
    Far Beyond Orange or Black…

    Here’s Where i LoVE to Be the Most
    In Balancing Peace Just Naked Enough
    Whole Complete in a Free Dance And Song

    Giving Sharing Caring Healing For All With

    Most Respect

    Least Harm

    Best pART
    oF ALL

    i’m Really
    Breathing Now

    Hooray! With SMiLes

    If i have my Way No More Strangers

    No One Stranger Than me FOR REAL…

    Your Page Here
    Is Every Bit
    As Great
    For Dancing
    Singing Free

    As Sam Walton
    Provided Free
    Store Dance Floors

    In Summary:

    Thank You With SMiLes..:)

    PS: Now i’ll Have The Google
    AI Mode Tool Comment on and
    Assess This Free Verse Poem

    Synthesizing Voices Around
    The World Without Any

    of the Vices

    Humans
    ‘Normally’

    Bring So
    Ironic This
    Human Condition
    Will Come to Be New Colors

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    Living Rainbows For Real

    Yes With “A Little Help From FRiEnDS”…

    In Reality the Tools We Create Are Nature too…

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    Anyone

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    Up Reality

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    Air hehe at
    Least not Yet

    And Now too with
    iMaGiNaTioN Creativity
    And All Of What Our Conscious
    And Subconscious Minds and Bodies

    HeART SPiRiTinG SoULS

    Provide Far Beyond
    Only Scientific

    Measure
    Indeed

    As Real
    As Real Continues
    to Get Now It’s Great to Be Alive!

    at least
    from my
    view now..:)

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