There are a lot of not very nice people out there. Gasp. Shocking, I am sure. And, these not very nice people often feel that they can be so because other people will feel obligated to be the bigger person. As a parent you advise your child to be the bigger person. I really want him to be a good person. I advise him to not bully back. Walk away. I was taught that. I try to live it. However, here’s the rub, I don’t necessarily care to be the bigger person all the time, anymore. There I said it. Gasp! It is ok to be self-aware and admit ugly things.
A long time ago, someone I knew was being a nasty idiot. When I had enough, I actually stuck my tongue out at them and they were aghast. Oh, the horror. Please. They were just shocked that someone finally called them out on their behavior. And, it is ok to do that. Why do the good people have to take crap all the time? Why must they tske the high road all the time? Because they are good people. That is just not a great way to live all the time. But it has become so cliche.
What television show or movie nowadays doesn’t have a horribly wronged person point a gun at the evil-doer to only walk away because they are good? They are better than that, supposedly. So many scenes like that. A few notable exceptions, with the movie Seven being one of them. Now, I have digressed and gone far afield. I’m not advocating any violence herein. I’m just saying that sometimes the high road can be both difficult to take and trite. Or rather, it’s become a cinematic trope.
On a less dramatic, cinematic, everyday life situation, being the bigger person can be good for one’s mental health. There is no need to carry anger, hatred, and payback in one’s heart and being. Yet, occasionally not taking the high road can be amusing and even liberating. I’m eternally amused when people who are completely mean-spirited still expect you to be kind because they know you will be the bigger person in the end. For those people a bit of intermittent conditioning, where you randomly don’t take the high road, can be of great benefit to all of society. Try calling them out to their face. Try sticking your tongue out at them. And, that is all I will say on that.