Selena Gomez has apparently been through some tough times in her 27 years of age. She was diagnosed with lupus and has undergone a kidney transplant. Luckily, she had a great friend who donated that kidney. Thus, even while battling health problems, she had a support network. Which, is so helpful and important to overcoming health setbacks. There is research out there that shows optimism can be associated with better health outcomes. But I digress.
While her lupus diagnosis has received media attention, her dating life has received an unbelievable amount of media attention and speculation. Of course, that media spotlight is fueled in part by her song lyrics. Just this past week she released two songs that hint at the pain and her being able to move on from her breakup with Justin Beiber. Well, not just the breakup. She notes the pain at their relationship being replaced after two months. She was flabbergasted at not just him dating someone new but also eventually getting married fairly quickly. That hurts.
There was this television show called Big Bang Theory and one of the characters is mighty unlucky when it comes to relationships. At one point he brings together his ex-girlfriends to do a de facto focus group to figure out why do his girlfriends always leave him. At the end, he comes to realize that every single one of them found a great new boyfriend right after him. He served as a catalyst, of sorts, for finding real love. That hurts.
But in everyday life, there are do many situations which lead us to know we are indeed replaceable. No matter how much blood, sweat, and tears you put into a job you can be replaced within weeks if not days. I know someone who died on the job and he was replaced and new staff came in and never heard of him. That hurts.
I don’t want to be morbid or melancholy. What I want to note is that from such pain we get to see what matters. From such pain we can seek our own paths and find happiness. Or rather, be happy. From such pain, we define our own self-worth. If you know that you can be replaced, you will be you. You will, as the kids say, do you.