My son loves playing video games. Not a big shock considering he is ten years old. Minecraft. Fortnite. Name it. Actually, that’s all I can name. In playing his games, he connects with other kids across the country. He has made some “good” friends from different places. And, I’m thrilled by that. I love that he can connect with people and learn about different communities.
In his connections, he has become protective of his friends. He stands up for them. He fights on their behalf. He takes on their causes. Sometimes a bit too much. See, he gets upset at unfair things. Or rather things he perceives are not fair. Especially, if his friends are being treated unfairly. He has a strong fairness core. I suppose its a good thing. It’s a really good thing.
However. Well, no however. It’s just that I am also trying to get him to understand that not everything needs a reaction. Thete are many times when the best course of action is to let certain things go and not let others get a rise out of you. Of course, we stand up for what is tight. That is non-negotiable. But there are situations and people who don’t need a reaction or even a response. It is best to walk away and let others stew in their own fumes.
I’m not sure my ten year gets that completely but I feel the need to impart that advice and guide him in that manner at a young enough age. There’s much out there these days to stir one up. Rile one up. But not always reacting can be powerful and empowering. It can help build a sense of self-efficacy that can only help build stronger life foundation.