My son loves playing video games. Not a big shock considering he is ten years old. Minecraft. Fortnite. Name it. Actually, that’s all I can name. In playing his games, he connects with other kids across the country. He has made some “good” friends from different places. And, I’m thrilled by that. I love that he can connect with people and learn about different communities.
In his connections, he has become protective of his friends. He stands up for them. He fights on their behalf. He takes on their causes. Sometimes a bit too much. See, he gets upset at unfair things. Or rather things he perceives are not fair. Especially, if his friends are being treated unfairly. He has a strong fairness core. I suppose its a good thing. It’s a really good thing.
However. Well, no however. It’s just that I am also trying to get him to understand that not everything needs a reaction. Thete are many times when the best course of action is to let certain things go and not let others get a rise out of you. Of course, we stand up for what is tight. That is non-negotiable. But there are situations and people who don’t need a reaction or even a response. It is best to walk away and let others stew in their own fumes.
I’m not sure my ten year gets that completely but I feel the need to impart that advice and guide him in that manner at a young enough age. There’s much out there these days to stir one up. Rile one up. But not always reacting can be powerful and empowering. It can help build a sense of self-efficacy that can only help build stronger life foundation.
Categories: Children, Culture, family, mental health, Psychology, society
Sensitive Humans are
Verily A Blessing but
Our Highways
Traveled too much
Regulating Emotions
And Integrating
Senses are core
To Energy
Left
To
Focus and
Utilize Best..
Considering Our
Emotions and
Senses flow
From Head to
Toe.. perhaps
A Greatest Failure
For Cognitive Behavioral
Therapy now and the Rest
Of Western Civilization
Describing Half Naked
Indians Dancing
Wildly Freely
Together around
A Campfire as
Savages is
The understood
Fact now
That they were
Developing
Their Emotional
Intelligence.. the
Core Always of
Most All so-Called
Rational Decisions..
So.. in ‘Affect’ and
Effect.. “Guardian’s
Of the Galaxy” are
Still Correct there
Are smART ‘Indians’
Who Dance now and
People who Do Not..
Where i live
Physical
Education
Requirements
End at 9th Grade..
How ignorant
Humans
Are who
Don’t even
Understand
What makes
Us Function
In Mind and Body
Balance Now
Naked
Away
From
All Our
‘Words/Tools’..:)
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I understand what you’re saying. It’s hard to find the balance between actively standing up for what is right (because, oh the horrors of indifference…) and letting something go to keep the peace. Also, there are just too many trolls out there that dedicate their life’s energy to riling people up in mockery dialogues. There’s no way to win those battles, even though they may be unfair and even hurtful sometimes.
Anyway, you’re son sounds like an awesome kid. The world needs more friendship warriors.
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Thanks! I love the term you use of friendshop warriors. I need to use it 🙂
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Great post 😄
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Thanks!
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A good lesson to learn young: you can’t fight every fight, just or not.
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It’s a sad fact. But indeed a good lesson. Hope your weekend is going well
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Just got out of the pool. As long as I have a pool (and use it – it’s downstairs in the same building, and there is an outdoor one, too), I am a happy camper, and my joints work much better.
Thanks for asking!
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I think it’s something we need to teach a lot of adults too.
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Hear hear! Cheers
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Enjoyed this. Right you are. We do not ‘need’ to react to everything. We don’t need to have a say on everything, or the last word, or the more logical reply.
In the same way that we cannot buffer our kids from every unfair act, Letting the other party find things out for themselves will bring lasting results. We have to let them experience their share of hardships.
You have an altruistic child there. Bless your heart. Bless his heart. That’s a blessing. Keep nurturing that heart and help him to find balance.
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Thanks so much!
So true we need to step back at times. Hope all is well. Cheers
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I had a similar experience working with a ten year old and a 16 year old boy in my clinic. Turning away from the “drama” and giving others your silence was deeply empowering and came to be understood as its own form of social justice. They realized there is ACTION in non-reaction. Thanks for posting this personal experience with your son.
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I love that there is action in non-reaction. I need to use that phrase . Thanks for sharing that.
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