I love making lists. I love to-do lists. I love putting easy wins on my to-do lists, i.e. brush hair. I can feel quite accomplished by putting together such lists. One thing, I admittedly do badly, is prioritize what is on that list. I figure I can alternate between easy items and hard ones. But prioritization? I can do that a bit better. Actually, that is true of most people.
People, surprisingly, don’t know how to prioritize. My simple answer when asked on that as a boss is to prioritize that for which others are waiting or needing you to complete that item. That sounds simple. Now let’s get out of kitchen chores and work projects.
Let’s go to the interpersonal. I don’t know how to readily advise people on how to prioritize other people in their lives. What I can say to the person who isn’t prioritized, who feels neglected or taken for granted, that at some point you have to prioritize yourself. If you are what appears to be an “option” why sweat and fuss in this situation? Don’t prioritize someone who just considers you – or treat you like- an option.
Simple rule. There are too many things that need our attention. Too many tugging at our sleeves. Too many send an outrageous number of status check inquiries. You can’t do it all. You can’t be everyone’s savior either no matter how much of a nice person you are. No matter how much of a giver you are. Sometimes you just have to say “I can try but just may not be able to get to that at the moment”. The same holds true for those you are in some kind of personal relationship, i.e. sister, uncle, partner, etc. Of course if it’s mom or the dog, those are always prioritized. That’s another simple rule.